Category: Dating and Relationships
Ok, I'm looking for a BDSM partner/S&M partner and am also curious to whos into it
well even if your not looking for a partner and your just into it this board is for that as well
I'm ignorant what is this bdsm/s&m stuff? what does this mean?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM is one place to read about bdsm and S&M deals in pain more than anything. Most people into S&M have a pain fetsh and also want to be owned as a submissive or a slave.
if you want more sites just ask
owned? my god I'm feeling bad now. what are you an object? anyway if you want to be a slave come here and wash my dishes, clean my room, take out the dogs even if it's raining like hell, and you can have all the pain you want because if you don't do what I told you to do I'll beat the crap out of you.
and no, I don't want more sites, thanks
actually I was looking for a slave for myself but thanks anyways
A good one is hard to find that's for sure. i've had a little success though in the past.
I agree
You damn straight. I personally like to dominate so yeah, good luck.
I'll find what I'm looking for most likely
I wish more that were into this would honestly post, most arent because its me that started the topic
I just don't get it. I don't like to dominate I don't care at all, but don't understand people who want to be treated like objects. but hey we are all different and nothing is surprising...
just remember we each have our strange likings
shame on folks, just because its me asking. No one posts. you motherfuckers are just lazy bastards
Nem shakes his head. I am confused your msn address is listed in your profile which I checked out just for kicks. How does a christian rationalize the submission and abuse of another? confounding.
Nem-
FlyingPhoenix, you really do seem to suffer with some kind of persecution complex. Either that or you simply haven't realized yet that the World doesn't actually revolve around you. There are several reasons why people may not have chosen to add comments to this topic, the least of which, I suspect, is a dislike of you. Though of course that is a distinct possibility.
Just to spell a couple of alternatives out though, have you never considered that generally speaking this is considered a taboo subject? Just because you may feel perfectly comfortable discussing this topic doesn't actually mean that everybody will, even those who may be interested in it. Speaking of interest, there's another alternative, perhaps the case simply is that there are very few people who even care about this topic enough to wish to comment. Some people like to be dominated, others like to dominate, but the majority, possibly even vast majority, prefer evenly balanced relationships where neither party is especially dominant or submissive.
Apparently this sort of thing makes you tick. Equally as apparent is that this topic hasn't made anyone else tick and as I said above, I suspect a dislike of you comes a fair way down the list of reasons as to why that is the case.
Oh, just for the record, your comments in post 15 in which you call the zone's general populous, "motherfuckers and lazy bastards" actually display you not as a mature adult looking for a series BDSM relationship, but as a spoiled child who isn't getting his way. I'm not sure that would impress a woman, even one who wishes to be dominated, very much. Though I will accede at this point that I'm no expert on the subject.
Dan.
wow Dan, you always seem to make me smile with your posts.
Okay, I don't want to be a ... what was it? ... lazy mother fucker bastard?
So that's my post.
My only comment to Dan is: Christ, how close were you to the 8000 character limit?
Bob (who doesn't want to be a slave and... dishes?)
www.collarme.com for all your bdsm partner finding needs.
Bob, that post was only 1708 characters long, it was a baby sir! LOL.
Dan.
Bob and Dan, I'm going to spank you both. Would you like that? LOL
if someone gets tied up and is forced to watch, you might have something. lol
I dont find that funny
I've discussed the way I feel about BDSM in sex addicts to great lengths, but I'll say a little bit in summary for anyone who's interested in why anyone would want to be "controled". I will be the mature BDSM participant to comment, well with the exception of Jess who stated that she likes to dominate but nothing further. I don't see submission as letting someone control me. I see it as defining limits in which my partner can do whatever he likes to me. If I feel he is not within those limits, I use my safeword. My partner has never failed to listen to my safeword. I find that the trust I place in him frees me to completely relax and enjoy the pleasure he is trying to make me feel. Now, a slave has to do whatever their master tells them to. In some cases, they might have two masters. For instance, a dom and a sub who live in the same house might choose to have a slave do their housework and perform sexual favors. The sub and dom couple don't have to live in the same house, but it helps the dom/sub/slave combo if they are. Some slaves need to be slaves. Sometimes they wish they were dead if they cannot find a master or if their master frees them. I cannot justify that rationale, only the rationale of being a sub. Subs are different than slaves, because we freely choose to submit to our partner and will only submit if they staywithin the limits we define.
I agree 100% with rosie, but here is another thing to take into consideration. In the end, alot of people fail to understand this, but it is often misconstrued that the dom has all the power, but in the end it's the sub who does. The sub says when it's too much, when he/she can't take it anymore, not the dom, if the dom were respective of his/her sub, they would know when to stop use the safeword, etc as rosie was saying. So people, being submissive isn't a bad thing.
But what I do wonder is this, is it like possible to be a dom in most situations, but then have just one person, just one... out of god knows who many in this world bring you over the edge, and cause you to be a sub? At least for them?
I wish my bf was more dom.
lonestar I agree its often thought that the power is with the Dom but the true power is with the sub for shes the one who has the power to say thats too much and I need to stop. and babygirl wait till your 18 hun because its illegal for you to do all this we talk about here curently
flying phoenix, get a house elf
Wow, that's a very interesting take, Jess. One person that would cause a dom to be a sub. You know, I always pictured myself as being a dom. Then Dan and I got together, and I was a sub. It was just this onconscious thing that happened. That doesn't have much to do with this topic, but I'd be interested to hear about doms gone sub, if there are any out there.
Okay, I don't particularly like the idea of having that much control over someone, or having them be my slave, but I do like to dominate, sometimes. I also like the guy to have equal part in it as well. that's why I like to siber them first. I don't kno if that's what your looking for, but their it is.
honestly liz it could be but I'm not 100% sure yet
omg! kidding about the siber thing. lmfao!
yea I know liz but its fun to laugh at those who believe it, I was gonna say hey to you but you didnt respond
gross
I've been thinking about putting up a thread for blind subs, maybe I will at some poitnt. The Christian experience is all about submission. Mary Magdalene saw Jesus as her Master. Remember the alabaster box and Mary wiping Jesus' feet with her hair? Rebecca veiling her head when she saw Isaac? There are many verses to quote but I've not had enough coffee. The bdsm world is large and complex and contains the sacred and the profane. It's really up to you to define yourself and your limits. No definition or person can do that for you. Oh, Islam itself means submission. Would anyone be interested in a thread just for blind subs? Peace. Tiffany
I am dom in bdsm and enjoy it lots. Usually only in specific scenes though I've never gone further to elaborate scenes of more than few hours in length. Would have no problem doing so though.
MJ
Post 28, that was great.